Damn, if that isn't a depressing title, I don't know what is. As has been reported here by other single guys, meeting single women with, well shall we say common sense and some manners, is so near impossible that it really has effected me mentally this past month. (oh, plus the fact I was going through the dirt and junk of my father's estate this weekend didn't help.)
Before this month I just concentrated on family issues and meeting someone was sorta outta sight, outta mind, which seemed to work for me. But with my life getting back to normal (finally) it is just getting to me being alone all the time, and this time its affecting much more than it ever did. You go online at these match making sites and all you get is obvious scams its ridiculous. I hear its the same for women, but I just don't buy it. And worse, I live in a supposed area of many more single women than single guys. Really? Are they part of the packs of girls doing their best Valley Girl impersonations in the malls while they spend, spend, spend? If so, man, shoot me now.
And to end this on a somewhat better point of view, I have been trying to keep up the with P90X regimine (see my last post) and now I splurged on one (and only one!) of their high priced recovery drink mix canisters. I'll be trying it this week and coming back with a review. And btw, I have lost almost 10 pounds in two weeks, and there is starting to show signs of the workouts.
Well wish me luck, I haven't given up yet. Is expecting a reasonable woman my age too much to ask?
I expect to be single a very long time.
June 22nd, 2009 at 10:00 pm
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:02 pm 1245708124
Second guy, she goes on one date with him and he seemed nice. They make a plan to meet again, but she is unable to make it due to some serious family issues. He sends her numerous texts saying that if she makes a plan, she should stick to it, and that HE was ready to meet up with her, so she should be. He then asked her to meet with him on a Monday morning at 10am. She said she would be at work, and he replied to forget it, if she wasn't going to take the time to out of her schedule for him he wasn't interested.
Those were the worst, but the other three weren't far behind.
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:19 pm 1245709185
Oh, and, yes, it IS the same for girls... one of our friends joined one of those sites and, after a while, the guy started asking her to join in on his wonderful business for which all he needed was the $$$ to get started...
June 23rd, 2009 at 12:16 am 1245712567
I think part of today's rant is that I am trying to go out on a date with someone local I met on one of these sites. She's my age, says she has kids, has complained about finding a man that isn't a loser, and it seems to me is playing hard to get (says she would like to meet, but won't answer questions about meeting locally where I will take her out for dinner). All I can say is "Seriously????". Maybe there is a good reason for the stall, but I have zero patience dealing with those that want to play around and aren't what they say they are.
I dunno, I have been burned too often by too many women being immature and lying to me. My attitude is "If you don't like me, please say so up front and go. And oh yeah, be honest, ok?" Is it too much to ask for them to behave like adults? Or is expecting honesty a childish attitude I have? (ok, time to go before I stress myself out again.)
June 23rd, 2009 at 12:35 am 1245713753
For what it's worth - guys just don't seem to read the profiles.
I put very basic info, such as age range, race, live in the USA ... and I get someone 20+ years older than me, 'technically' separated, and in another country. (Oh, and I remember one guy who wrote a really nice email and everything one time - but was a good 20 years older than me -- I responded and told him as politely as possible that I wasn't interested. He spat back at me with several notes telling me what a terrible person I was. Yep, that's the way to change a persons mind.)
I wish I had advice on where to meet someone - cuz if I knew that ..... well then I'd take up my own advice.
There's lots of days where I see all the happy couples, or hear of friends having kids, it gets hard. Then again, I see so many marriages failing or in deep trouble .. and I wonder if it's worth the trouble and effort to even think about it.
So anyway, I feel your pain. Finding someone who shares your fiscal values, on top of whatever else you hold near and dear, seems a little like 'The Impossible Dream" sometimes.
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June 24th, 2009 at 04:32 pm 1245857545
I'm going to write to her and let her know that based on how she wrote things I thought I wasn't pushing it, but she needed to let me know if she felt that way, which she didn't. And she can know that I won't bother her if thats what she wants. I am not into being a nuisance with someone else. I have more dignity in myself than to do that. (Plus I think the exercises last night helped to get me in the right frame of mind. 100 minutes of Yoga will do that!)