Before I get onto the theme for today, let me pass along my latest utility bills (read savings): $16.85 for nat. gas, under $50 for my electric, and my quarterly water bill (for 2nd quarter) was $12. I also spent some time today repairing some items around the house, so this was a good weekend.
OK, remainder of this is very unfinancial ... you have been warned.
Friday night I went to one of these singles dinners, where we had 4 guys, 4 gals, at a table. Evening didn't start too bad, we got our food (and as none of us had eaten there before we were kinda clueless on how to eat this type of ethnic food which was amusing), and started with various chatting. About 30 minutes into the meal one of the women brings up the movie. A quick discussion starts to see who saw it (4 women, 0 men - big surprise), and one woman says of course this is a chick flick, you can't expect the guys to have seen it. OK, fair enough.
No big deal right? Well not so fast. Instead of trying to talk with the men, the 3 women to my left continue on discussing the finer points of the movie, while the guys just sit there and eat and listen. The other woman talks with me on various things, but while we talk I can hear this conversion about the movie going non-stop between the three women. Just after it finally ends (20 minutes? Maybe more?) I decide to test the woman to my right. "Oh wow, the other women just finished a discussion about Eat Pray Love." "Really, Oh wow, I should have been talking with them, I so wanted to discuss the movie with others." Hmmm, make that "failed test".
About another 20-30 minutes later they had the guys swap tables so we could meet other women. But at the end of the movie discussion I had already "checked out" from this group of women. Good Lawd, WTF are they thinking? Go to a dinner designed to get you to know and maybe meet someone of the opposite sex, and then just go on about something the others don't care about, and you know they don't care about? Maybe us guys should have started a round robin discussion about the NFL for the upcoming year. At least we knew enough not to do something that dumb. "Oh they're single you say? At this rate they're going to stay that way."
I left that table and didn't look back. The other women were better, though that's faint praise in this case. Nothing sparked with them, but at least they knew why they came. Still, what a waste of time and money. After this I am going to change my way of trying to get with women, because after this third time its obvious the women at these dinners are single for a reason.
Eat, Pray, Love. Do we really have to?
August 22nd, 2010 at 11:06 pm
August 23rd, 2010 at 12:42 am 1282524168
August 23rd, 2010 at 01:27 am 1282526865
On topic though ... that really wasn't very smart of the ladies. If you're out at a social event who's main purpose is to meet men ... well it's not time to bond with the ladies next to you.
When I was younger (late 20's) I tried a dating club for awhile. Went to several events. Unfortunately, I never was able to really feel a part of the group. Most of the people in it seemed to have been in it for a LONG time, and not willing to include new people. Now, in my mid-30's, I just don't see a lot of quality available men out there. (At least not any who are willing to get to know someone who isn't 150lbs or less. Or at least not any in my race - Hispanic men (usually older ones, like late 40's at least) and African-American men at laundromats or the library or the junk yard or a gas station ... they'll give me a second look. At least till I tell them, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." I remember this one guy at the library, he looked at me walking up to the doors, and preemptively said, "You have a boyfriend, right?" Guess he got that a lot.)
August 23rd, 2010 at 02:54 am 1282532071
August 23rd, 2010 at 06:06 am 1282543614
August 23rd, 2010 at 03:05 pm 1282575953
On the other hand, I'm glad the ladies there seem like they had a good time. I like seeing people around me have a good time. But then, I also don't think I can do the singles meet thing but that's just me.
August 23rd, 2010 at 03:33 pm 1282577609
August 27th, 2010 at 04:48 pm 1282927728
Jerry
September 20th, 2010 at 02:24 am 1284949441
Besides, if you had seen the movie you would have been branded as a gay man by them anyway so you weren't going to win.
FWIW - If the conversation had turned to the NFL, well, that interested me more than the movie would have. Would have gotten in on that!
September 20th, 2010 at 02:36 pm 1284993393
November 16th, 2010 at 11:19 pm 1289949585
Now I'm hooked on "single guy".